Values

There are countless different and distinctive characters. You are one of them. You are unique and one of a kind. Isn't it wonderful how diverse our possibilities on this planet are? How many different goals are worth pursuing and in how many ways can one commit to them? What all people have in common, however, is the search for meaning in our lives. But this commonality is already everything, because the paths to a meaning are completely different. Some join an order and become monks or nuns. Others throw themselves into their job and try to earn as much money as quickly as possible. One man preached through the land and conveyed his joyful message to the common people. Another devoted all his energy to the extermination of an entire people. What were the differences between these people? What was it that drove them and made them live as they did? Were these people always like this? Did they have to remain so?

I don't think so! We are not rigid, unchangeable beings whose character is fixed from birth and cannot change. Each of us unites within ourselves a multitude of character traits and behaviors. However, it seems that some people limit themselves to a handful of traits and thereby deprive themselves of additional possibilities. What if they could choose their character traits themselves or even switch from situation to situation?

Most people, however, do not even dream that this is possible. They have completely ignored this possibility and wear the glasses of their habits throughout their lives, which repeatedly leads them to perform the same behaviors. Their everyday life follows a rigid pattern and has become a routine.

We must overcome this rigidity if we want to be successful and lead a happy life. A psychologist once expressed it with the words: "The healthy person has as little personality as possible." He understands personality as everything we carry within us in terms of values and norms, fixed character traits, moral systems, the way we speak, everything that is static and not in a process, that which we have once acquired and do not let go of anymore. He does not say that one should not have any personality at all, but rather that it should be as little rigid as possible, meaning one should be able to "throw everything overboard" to start anew. Don't you sometimes wish for a little more vigor to break out of the comfortable cage of entrenched behavior patterns and to choose something new against habit that brings you closer to your big dream?

When you develop a dynamic personality, the laws that apply to "normal" people no longer apply to you. You will learn to view problems and tasks from new perspectives and open up choices in your behavior. A dynamic personality can adapt to the requirements of the respective life situation. You will be able to tap into the full range of emotional reactions and feelings. By developing into a dynamic personality, you will gain power – the power to shape your life according to your wishes. Personality traits are only static if one believes they are.

If you orient yourself to an ordinary person, then the psychological laws that apply to that person also apply to you. Then it may also be impossible for you to realize your dreams. Change your focus and concentrate on successful people – on people, who have managed to master some area (or all) of their lives. By imitating their methods and way of life, you will break out of the cage of the ordinary and new possibilities will open up.