NLP Email Training 35

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If only one could love enough, one would be the most powerful person in the world.

Emkett Fox

Position 1-2-3
Change Your Perspective

In NLP, people can learn to deliberately adopt different perspectives. This often allows conflicts and problems to be viewed in a completely different light, making solutions more likely. The overarching goal here is to increase flexibility in perception.

In the first position, we experience the world from our own perspective, with our own assumptions and beliefs. We see the outer world through our own eyes and are associated with our own viewpoint, meaning we experience our own feelings.

In the second position, we experience a situation from the perspective of another person. We step into someone else's shoes and experience the world from their standpoint: We hear with that person's ears, see with their eyes, and feel as that person does. Pretend to be that person; what would you perceive, what would you think and feel? You have often used this ability, for example, in role-playing or in recognizing the needs of another person, perhaps also in an exciting movie. In doing so, we dissociate from ourselves and associate with another person.

In the third position, a situation is perceived from the standpoint of an uninvolved, outside observer. This observer experiences the situation neutrally, taking no sides. Like a behavioral scientist, they observe a situation and are amazed by, for example, human conflict behavior. This position has much distance from the other two and from the situation.

Exercise for this week

1. Try to consciously experience the first position. Fully associate yourself with your own sensations and feelings.
2. Then prepare yourself to move into the second position:
   • a) Imagine another person vividly. Picture how this person acts, moves, thinks, and feels. What does this person believe? What experiences have they had in their life?
   • b) Then imagine 'going into' their body: adopting exactly that posture, moving just like that, speaking like that, etc. Feel the feelings of the other person.
3. Imagine a past situation from a distance. As if you were an uninvolved observer. Someone who is not personally involved. It hardly concerns you what has happened there. Use all the dissociation techniques you know, e.g., cinema space, plexiglass pane, etc.

Supplementary Links

Audio:

1-2-3-Positions >>>
Here, Stephan explains the 1-2-3 positions format and its benefits.

Text:

Meta-Mirror >>>
The Meta-Mirror developed by R. Dilts is an extension of the 1-2-3 positions and is described here.

Test:

Test 07 >>>
Small success check for lessons 31 - 35

Metaphor of the Week
The squinting chicken

Once upon a time, there was a chicken that squinted a lot. This squinting chicken saw the whole world a bit crooked and believed it was actually crooked. For example, it also saw its fellow chickens and the rooster as crooked. It always walked a bit askew and bumped into walls quite often. On a windy day, the squinting chicken walked past the Leaning Tower of Pisa with its fellow chickens. "Look at that," said the chickens, "the wind has blown this tower crooked." The squinting chicken also looked at the tower and found it completely straight. It said nothing but thought to itself that the other chickens might be squinting.

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