NLP Email Training 32

Quote
He who does not know the harbor he is sailing to, for him no wind is favorable.
Seneca

Well-formed goals

If you want to achieve something in this life, you should set goals, both big and small. Set goals for your life, the next 10 years, this year, the month, the week, the day, etc. Keep your goals in mind repeatedly. It’s best to think of your big dream every day!
A goal is a concrete and sensually perceivable desired outcome. In NLP, there are a number of criteria for well-formed goals. When these criteria are applied, a wish or dream transforms into something concrete – into a goal.

Exercise for this week

a) Take some time to dream. Think about what you really want in your life. Perhaps you have read my book: Way Up – Living Your Own Dream and completed the exercises in it, then you know very well what I mean. Think of the various areas of your life: finances, partnership, career, personality, social life, spirituality, leisure. Write down your dreams. As they come. Create wonderful images in your mind about them. Don’t filter. Pretend you are a small child putting together a wish list just before Christmas. Santa Claus can fulfill any wish.

b) Consider your dreams. And write a number behind each one, by when you want to realize it. If it should be in ten years, then write 10, if it should be in 5 years, then write 5, if it should be achieved in a month, then write 1 month, etc. Make sure you have both short-term and long-term wishes.

c) Select some important goals from your wish list that are in the range of one year and mark them. Write them on a separate page and leave space behind each goal. Formulate the goal. Write a complete sentence.

d) Check this sentence against the well-formedness criteria: If a criterion is not met, then rephrase your goal:

• Is the goal itself achievable? It must be within your sphere of influence, because only then can you control the implementation yourself.
• Is the goal positively formulated? Have you avoided comparisons and negations?
• Is the goal ecological? Have you ensured that achieving the goal has no negative consequences or unbearable side effects?
• Is the goal sensually concrete? What do you see, what do you hear, what do you feel when you have achieved the goal? Imagine you already have it – what would that be like?
• Is the goal embedded in a context? Do you want the goal to be present in multiple contexts (professional, private, towards all people, always)?

e) Does the goal have the right size? What would be intermediate and partial goals? How do you know you are on the right track? What verification criteria are there? Try to keep this feedback form as short as possible so that you can make corrections immediately if necessary.

f) Find an anchor for your goal. If you dream of a house, then find a picture of a house that looks like your dream house from a magazine or draw it yourself. If you want more self-confidence, then imagine how you would have more self-confidence – what could remind you of that? Place this anchor in a spot in your home, at work, or in your car, so that you are reminded again and again of what your goal is.

g) Start with the first step. Try to do something every day – even if it’s just a very small step – to get a little closer to your goal. Even the journey to the moon begins with the first small step out your front door. A great novel is created by writing one page after another. Each of these small steps is infinitely valuable. Every brushstroke by Picasso is a part of the masterpiece. Make your life a masterpiece!

Supplementary Links

Audio:
Formulating goals >>>
What is important when formulating a goal?
Sensory-specific concrete goals >>>
What is a sensory-specific defined goal?

Text:
Formulating goals >>>
Here you can read how goals should be formulated to lead to the desired success.

Metaphor of the Week

The motivation professor in the quarry
Some of you know this story, as I like to tell it in my goal and time management seminars:

A motivation professor has dedicated his life to the question: What motivates people? [...] "Chiseling stones? Don’t you see, I’m working on the vault for Cologne Cathedral!"

Coaching question: Do you have your Cologne Cathedral? We all have to chisel stones from time to time, we all have routine tasks of everyday life. What connection do these everyday tasks have with your Cologne Cathedral?

Book Recommendation

NLP in Action. The art of NLP as applied psychology in daily life and in professional communication Authors: Thomas Rückerl and Jörn Ehrlich Short Description: This book shows you how to effectively use the psychological tools of NLP in everyday situations both professionally and in private contact. As a reader, you get a behind-the-scenes look at NLP and decode many secrets of successful communication. Through the vivid presentation of the psychological content, it becomes easily understandable for every reader, why the art of NLP, after the healing practices of psychotherapists, is now also conquering the executive floors of business. Furthermore, the fascinating method is gaining increasing interest in the general public. Each chapter contains an extensive training program with many practical exercises, and in the last chapter, you will find a selection of NLP checklists. You will be motivated to not only store your psychological insights as knowledge, but to consistently put them into practice. Here the book can be ordered: Now on Amazon

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Stephan Landsiedel