NLP Email Training 08

Quote

“I prefer to remember the future.”

Salvador Dali

From Pacing to Leading (from Matching to Leading)

Our topic over the last few weeks was Pacing.

After you have perceived the other person and calibrated them accurately, you could surely match them very well. This made you feel closer to them and allowed you to deepen the contact. You can use this as a good basis to now lead them yourself and skillfully guide the interaction – and perhaps only now are you slowly realizing how important the preliminary exercises of the past three lessons were.

Exercise for this week

a) Observe Pacing and Leading in other people when they come into contact with each other. Observe how they match each other in language and body language.

b) Observe the body posture of a friend or partner and mirror it, then lead the other person into a very powerful state through your body posture, e.g., by starting to breathe more freely and straightening up, looking more upwards, raising your shoulders, etc.

c) Start a conversation rather calmly and with a slow speaking speed. If the other person follows you, start speaking faster and becoming restless. Pay attention to whether the other person follows you.

d) Pay more attention to the phenomenon of leadership in different situations. How do leaders behave? How can you recognize the leader in a group?

e) Let yourself be led consciously for once. Follow the other person.

f) Start leading two or more people. Perhaps you will also have the opportunity to take the lead for an entire group. Don't forget the rapport.

g) Think and act like a leader for at least one day. Lead through your example, your physiology, your energy. Take responsibility.

Supplementary Links

From Pacing to Leading »»»
Using Peter's example, it is clearly explained how to switch from Pacing to Leading.

Metaphor of the Week

While reading the book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey, I came across the following story:

Two warships assigned to the training squadron have been practicing maneuvers in heavy weather for days. I was on the lead ship and had duty on the bridge in the evening. Fog clouds made visibility difficult, so the captain stayed up and monitored everything.

Shortly after darkness fell, the lookout reported: “Light starboard ahead!” “Is it stationary, or is it moving aft?” The lookout replied: “It is stationary, Captain.” This meant that we were on a dangerous collision course with the other ship. The captain then called to the signalman: “Send a signal to the ship: We are on a collision course, recommend 20 degrees course change.”

In the meantime, the captain was quite angry. He shouted: “Signal that I am a warship. He should change course by 20 degrees.” Promptly, the response blinked back: “I am a lighthouse.” We changed course.

Book Recommendation

The Magic of Flirting – From Rejection to Kiss
Author: Stephan Landsiedel

Short Description:
With this book, you dive into the world of flirting and learn how to overcome shyness with the help of NLP techniques, confidently approach others, and playfully make the first contact. You will learn how to evoke genuine sympathy with charm and authenticity, interpret body language correctly, and naturally transform conversations into flirting moments. Ideal for anyone who wants to expand their communication skills – with a wink.

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