NLP Email Training 08

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“I remember the future best.”

Salvador Dali

From Pacing to Leading (from Matching to Leading)

Our topic in recent weeks was pacing.

After you have perceived the other person and calibrated them precisely, you were probably able to match them very well. This made you feel closer to them and allowed you to deepen the contact. You can use this as a good basis to now lead them yourself and skillfully guide the interaction – and perhaps it is only now becoming clear to you how important the preliminary exercises of the past three lessons were.

Exercise for This Week

a) Observe pacing and leading in other people when they come into contact with each other. Observe how they match each other in language and body language.

b) Observe the posture of a friend or partner and mirror it, then lead the other person into a very powerful state through your posture, e.g., by starting to breathe more freely and standing up straight, directing your eyes more upwards, raising your shoulders, etc.

c) Start a conversation rather calmly and with a slow speaking pace. If the other person follows you, start speaking faster and become more restless. Pay attention to whether the other person follows you.

d) Pay increased attention to the phenomenon of leadership in different situations. How do leaders behave? How can you recognize the leader in a group?

e) Let yourself be led quite consciously once. Follow the other person.

f) Start leading two or more people. Perhaps you also have the opportunity to take over leadership for an entire group. Don't forget the rapport.

g) Think and act like a leader for at least one day. Lead by your example, your physiology, your energy. Take responsibility.

Supplementary links

From Pacing to Leading »»»
Using the example of Peter, it is clearly explained how to switch from pacing to leading.

Metaphor of the Week

While reading the book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey, I came across the following story:

Two warships assigned to the training squadron had been at sea on maneuvers in heavy weather for several days. I was serving on the lead ship and was on watch on the bridge as night fell. The visibility was poor with patchy fog, so the captain remained on the bridge keeping an eye on all activities.

Shortly after dark, the lookout on the wing reported, “Light, bearing on the starboard bow.” “Is it steady or moving astern?” the captain called out. The lookout replied, “Steady, captain,” which meant we were on a dangerous collision course with that ship. The captain then called to the signalman, “Signal that ship: We are on a collision course, advise you change course 20 degrees.”

By that time, the captain was furious. He spat out, “Signal, I am a battleship. Change course 20 degrees.” Back came the flashing light, “I am a lighthouse.” We changed course.

Book Recommendation

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Author: Stephan Landsiedel

Short Description:
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