NLP Email Training 20

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“Whoever asks questions cannot avoid the answer”
– Proverb from Cameroon

Meta-Model Part (2)

In the last lesson, we already dealt with the Meta-Model. However, the questioning techniques in this model are so extensive that it is almost unavoidable to introduce further language patterns for a comprehensive overview. Language is a model. The Meta-Model of NLP is a model about language, a model of how people unconsciously design language models. The Meta-Model of NLP is based on the assumption that there are three levels that interact with each other: (1) a pre-linguistic level of experience, (2) a deep structure of language, and (3) a surface structure of language.

The level of experience relates to the pre-linguistic level of representation systems, the deep structure of language expresses a language that is as close as possible to the original experience.

In everyday life, we use the surface structure: a language that often strays far from the original experience.

Formulate (as you did in the last lesson) your own question for the following patterns and think of three more examples for each type.

1) Cause-Effect:
Here, two things are connected in such a way that one is thought to be the cause of the other.
Example sentence: “Your absence makes me very sick.”
Question: “How exactly does my absence cause you to become sick?”
Training sentences:
The video camera intimidates me a lot.
Your looks kill me!
Your praise brings tears of joy to my eyes.

2) Presuppositions:
For the sentence to make sense, one must acknowledge a statement made in passing.
Example sentence: “Do you not love me anymore?”
Presupposition: He loved her before.
Question: “How do you know that I ever loved you?” or “What makes you think that ...?”
Training sentences:
Does it suit you better at 3:00 or at 4:00?
Have you calmed down again?
Today you look quite okay.

3) Mind Reading:
Hasty interpretations and guesses made out of the blue can sometimes be quite annoying. Just question them!
Example sentence: “You are not happy, I just know it!”
Question: “How do you believe you know that I am not happy?”
Training sentences:
You are not sure what to do next?
You are wondering whether to kiss me or not?
All right, now you are sulking again.

4) Lost Performative:
Here, the author or the executing person has been lost.
Example sentence: “One simply does not do that!”
Question: “Who is 'one'?” or “Who said that?”
Training sentences:
One must be careful of them.
One must not risk too much.
One should rather be content with little in life.

Supplementary Links

Audio:
Meta-Model »»»
Cause-Effect
Meta-Model Pattern »»»
"Presuppositions"
Meta-Model Pattern »»»
"Lost Performative"

Test:
Test 04: »»»
Small Success Check

Metaphor of the Week

There was a group of older gentlemen in Japan. The men met regularly to exchange news and, above all, to enjoy a good cup of tea together.
They all took great pleasure in discovering particularly expensive tea varieties and creating new blends that pleased their palates.
When the oldest member of the group was to host the others, he served the tea with the most exquisite ceremony and distributed the tea leaves from a golden vessel. All the men were full of praise and wanted to know how he had put together this excellent blend.
The old man smiled and said: “Gentlemen, the tea that you find so delicious is drunk by the farmers on my farm. The best things in life are often neither expensive nor hard to find.”

Book Recommendation

The NLP Dictionary
Authors: Walter Ötsch, Thies Stahl & Inke Jochims

Short Description:
A few lessons later, you might ask yourself, what was a “lost performative” again?
Therefore, as a book recommendation at this point, a dictionary. This provides beginners with an initial orientation on basic terms of NLP. Advanced users use it as a reference work, and NLP experts find clear definitions and a broad overview of many aspects of NLP here. The dictionary presents theoretical backgrounds and connections in a compact form. Clear. Concise. Pleasant to read.

Here the book can be ordered: Now on Amazon

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