NLP Email Training 20

Quote

“Who asks questions cannot avoid the answer”
– Proverb from Cameroon

Meta-Model Part (2)

In the previous lesson, we already dealt with the Meta-Model. However, the questioning techniques in this model are so extensive that it is almost indispensable to introduce further language patterns for a comprehensive overview. Language is a model. The Meta-Model of NLP is a model about language, a model of how people unconsciously design language models. The Meta-Model of NLP is based on the assumption that there are three levels that interact with each other: (1) a pre-linguistic level of experience, (2) a deep structure of language, and (3) a surface structure of language.

The level of experience is related to the pre-linguistic level of representation systems, the deep structure of language expresses a language that is as close as possible to the original experience.

In everyday life, we use the surface structure: a language that often deviates far from the original experience.

Formulate (as you did in the last lesson) your own question for the following patterns and think of three more examples for each type.

1) Cause-Effect:
Two things are related in such a way that one is believed to be the cause of the other.
Example sentence: “Your absence makes me really sick.”
Question: “How exactly does my absence cause you to become sick?”
Training sentences:
The video camera intimidates me a lot.
Your looks are killing me!
Your praise brings tears of joy to my eyes.

2) Presuppositions:
For the sentence to make sense, one must acknowledge a statement made in passing.
Example sentence: “Don't you love me anymore?”
Presupposition: He loved her before.
Question: “How do you know that I ever loved you?” or “What makes you think that …?”
Training sentences:
Does it suit you better at 3:00 or 4:00?
Have you calmed down again?
Today you look quite okay.

3) Mind Reading:
Hasty interpretations and wild guesses can sometimes be quite annoying. Just question them!
Example sentence: “You're not happy, I just know it!”
Question: “How do you think you know that I'm not happy?”
Training sentences:
You're not sure what to do next?
You're wondering whether to kiss me or not?
Alright, now you're sulking again.

4) Lost Performative:
The originator or the person performing the action has been lost.
Example sentence: “You just don't do that!”
Question: “Who is 'you'?” or “Who said that?”
Training sentences:
You have to be careful with them.
You shouldn't risk too much.
You should be content with little in life.

Supplementary links

Audio:
Meta-Model »»»
Cause-Effect
Meta-Model Pattern »»»
"Presuppositions"
Meta-Model Pattern »»»
"Lost Performative"

Test:
Test 04: »»»
Small Success Check

Metaphor of the Week

It was a group of elderly gentlemen in Japan. The men met regularly to exchange news among themselves and especially to enjoy a good cup of tea together.
They all took great pleasure in finding particularly expensive tea varieties and creating new blends that pleased their palates.
When it was the turn of the oldest member of the group to host the others, he served the tea with the most exquisite ceremony and distributed the tea leaves from a golden vessel. All the men were full of praise and wanted to know how he had put together this excellent blend.
The old man smiled and said: "Gentlemen, the tea you find so delicious is what the farmers on my farm drink. The best things in life are often neither expensive nor hard to find."

Book Recommendation

The Dictionary of NLP
Authors: Walter Ötsch, Thies Stahl & Inke Jochims

Short Description:
A few lessons later, you might be wondering, what exactly was a "lost performative"?
Therefore, as a book recommendation at this point, a dictionary. This offers beginners an initial orientation on basic terms of NLP. Advanced users use it as a reference work, and NLP experts find clear definitions and a broad overview of many aspects of NLP here. The dictionary presents theoretical backgrounds and contexts in a compact form. Clear. Concise. Pleasant to read.

Here the book can be ordered: Now at Amazon

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