NLP Email Training 04

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“The great aim of life is not knowledge, but action.”

Thomas Henry Huxley

Topic: Calibrating Part (1)

Our topic in recent weeks was perception.
You did the exercises, didn't you? Or?
If not, then at least catch up on them in a short form now. It will benefit you more than just hoarding the emails.
I know, we humans are sometimes a bit lazy and what costs nothing is worth nothing!?
Do you think like that?
I hope not, because the next lesson is waiting for you!

Calibrating means tuning in to your counterpart, calibrating to them. In NLP, we assume that every person is unique and individual. Body language statements and their interpretation do not apply equally to all people in every situation. Therefore, I have to adjust to the person who is currently in front of me. They are the most important person for me at this moment. Calibrating is basically nothing new for you. You have done it often, for example, when you answer the phone and after the first “Hello!?” from your counterpart, you already know how the person is feeling today. Your past perceptions help you interpret the tone and pitch correctly and recognize the underlying feelings.

Exercise for This Week

a) Observe your conversation partner's body language and try to recognize the inner state (the mood, such as joy, sadness, enthusiasm, irritability, etc.). Later, you can verify your hypotheses.

b) Say today to every person you meet: “You are important to me right now.” Then specifically observe their facial expressions (especially eyes, mouth, nose) and note the changes when the mood shifts. Be open to your counterpart.

c) Pay attention to the feeling in your hand with every handshake today. Is the pressure strong or weak? Is the hand warm or cold? Is it large or small? Consider whether you could identify the person with this handshake even in the dark.

d) Prick up your ears and perceive the emotional state of the other person from the sound of their voice. You can train this well on the phone. Listen attentively to your conversation partner's voice. Pay attention to speed, volume, and tone. Remember these characteristics. When you hear them again, you can recognize the other person's state from them.

Next week, there will be some more exercises so that you become really fit in calibrating!

Supplementary links

Audio

Calibrating >>>
A brief introduction to the concept of calibrating.

Text

Classic Body Language >>>
Here you can find more on the topic of body language.

Metaphor of the Week

The Frog in the Pot

If you throw a frog into a pot of hot water, the green fellow will jump right out of the pot. He may have suffered a few small scalds, but they are soon overcome … and he lives happily on!

However, if you put a frog in a pot of cold water and then slowly heat the water, the frog stays in the pot. He stays and stays and stays … until he perishes in the hot, boiling water!

And just like this frog, many people experience the same: They live their lives in such a way that it slowly but surely gets worse for them … but they can't manage to change this life, to jump out of the pot. Yes, due to the slow deterioration, many people often don't even notice that their quality of life is increasingly turning negative.

Book Recommendation

Body Language and Communication – The Handbook for Nonverbal Communication

Short Description:
From animal to toddler to adult, it is shown how movements – even the smallest gestures – provide information about well-being. A standard work to reduce misunderstandings in interpersonal areas and to better analyze situations. Not only are the phenomena described that are mostly perceived unconsciously, but also practical applications in pedagogy, therapy, and vocational training are shown. The book is aimed at both professionals and interested readers who want to become more aware of their nonverbal communication.

The book can be ordered here.

General information

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