NLP Email Training 44

Quote

Not because it is difficult, we do not dare, but because we do not dare, it is difficult.

Seneca

Diamond Technique (1)

The Diamond Technique is a very nice complement to other NLP techniques. It can be used both as a problem-solving technique and as a creativity technique. Its goal is not necessarily to solve problems, but rather to dissolve them, i.e., to gain completely new viewpoints and insights, which often result in the problem being seen or understood differently.

Exercise for This Week

Take a blank sheet of paper and a pen (of course, you can also do the exercise on the computer). Since this is the first part of an exercise that will continue, please keep the sheet with this exercise well. You will need it again in the next lesson!

1. Define the problem:
   First, choose a problem you would like to work on. Something where you would like to make some progress. Write the problem in keywords on the right half of the page approximately in the middle.
   Example: "I am small."
2. Determine the opposite:
   Now determine an opposite to the problem. There are many possibilities for this, e.g., "I am tall", "I am different", "I am not small", etc. Choose an opposite and write it on the left side of the sheet at the same height as the problem.
3. Find common ground:
   Now ask yourself: What do the problem and the opposite have in common? What is the commonality?
   Example: "I have a certain size."
   Write the result in keywords in the middle of the upper half of the sheet. If you were to connect the three previous keywords, they would form a triangle.
   The clear assignments of good and bad are questioned and loosened by this point. This happens already through the mere form of this question, without it having to be specifically addressed. This is an important step towards problem resolution.
   Problem solution: Reach the goal within the existing framework from problem to goal.
   Problem resolution: Leave the existing framework.
4. Find neither-nor:
   Ask yourself today: What is beyond statement and opposite? What is neither the statement nor the opposite?
   Example: "I live."
   Write the "neither nor" in the middle of the lower half of the sheet. Now connect the "both and" with the problem and with the opposite. Then connect the "neither nor" with the statement and with the opposite. In this way, a diamond is formed.

Often it will be the case that both the problem and the opposite are now completely reassessed. Then it is sometimes useful to start a basic diamond again with the new view of the problem and a new opposite. In many cases, however, this is no longer necessary. Because often a problem resolution will have occurred. Typical characteristics are:

• New views and perspectives regarding the original problem
• A much friendlier approach to one's own problems
• A significantly increased flexibility and sovereignty in dealing with problems
• The problem is no longer perceived as a problem at all (but rather as an opportunity, a challenge, or even as a resource)

Supplementary links

Audio:

Introduction to the Diamond Technique >>>
What is the Diamond Technique and how does it work?

Text:

The Diamond Technique >>>
Here it is described, among other things, how this technique was developed.

Metaphor of the Week
Schopenhauer's Porcupine Parable

It is cold. Some porcupines come together to warm each other. In doing so, they get pricked by each other's quills. That hurts, so they move away from each other again. But because they soon get cold again, they come back together until they finally find the distance they can tolerate from each other.

Sometimes we no longer want to be near other people. But as soon as we are away, we realize that we do miss the other person.

Book Recommendation

The Diamond Technique in Practice
Authors: Klaus Grochowiak & Leo Maier

Short Description:
This book presents a special form of change work, which is equally suitable for therapeutic assistance, for coaching as well as for consulting situations – and which can also be of great benefit in personal everyday life: the Diamond Technique. It is based on the proven methods of NLP, but goes one decisive step further. Problems are not only solved, but literally dissolved – by changing the background construction itself, in which the problem and the respective solution were previously embedded. The result is often astonishing changes that are both profound and sustainable. The main focus is on concrete applicability and on imparting practical competence.

Here the book can be ordered: Now at Amazon

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