NLP Email Training 11

Quote

“If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own.”

Henry Ford

Eye Movement Patterns

Our topic in recent weeks was perception.

After we have already dealt with the VAKOG perception channels in the last two lessons, this time it's about how we can recognize from eye movements which channel the other person is currently in.

Short, unconscious movements of the eyes in different directions provide information about which representation system is currently being accessed. This can help you better adjust to your counterpart and use the same channels. The following describes in which direction the eyes wander when you observe your counterpart.

For example, if he imagines things he has never seen before, his eyes move up to the right according to the model (visually constructed).

If he remembers something he has seen before, his eyes move up to the left (visually remembered).

His eyes move to ear level on the right when he constructs something auditory internally — e.g., when he composes something internally that is new to him.

If he remembers sounds, voices, or noises, his eyes move to ear level on the left (auditory remembered).

If your practice partner perceives sensations or experiences emotions or feelings, the eyes move down to the right (kinesthetic).

If he listens to his inner voice or engages in self-talk, his eyes wander down to the left (internal dialogue).

Exercise for This Week

Exercise 1:
It would be nice if you had a partner for this. Try to pay attention to the position of his eyes in the following exercise while you ask him the following questions:

a) Imagine a purple cow

b) What color was your first car?

c) Which voice you know is the most unpleasant for you?

d) How would it sound if an entire football stadium sang your name?

e) Imagine how hot sand feels on the beach.

f) How does a lemon taste?

g) How does the alphabet continue after O?

Can you assign these questions to the patterns described above (visually constructed, visually remembered, auditory constructed, etc.)?

If it doesn't work right away, remember that this pattern is a generalization that doesn't always apply. Therefore, it is advisable to calibrate beforehand! For left-handers, the sides may be reversed.

Exercise 2:
Pay attention to your own eye movements in the coming week. Is it easier for you if you consciously look in the direction that, according to the eye model, gives you easier access.
Example:
You would like to visualize something. Look up for this and see if you can visualize more easily in this position than if your eyes are directed downward.
Try more examples of this kind.

Supplementary links

Theory of Eye Access Cues »»»
In this audio file, Stephan explains how eye movements can provide clues regarding representation systems.

More about Eye Access Cues »»»
Here you will learn more about facts and applications of eye access cues.

Metaphor of the Week

Recognizing the Message

A traveler came to a monastery to hear the master. After a while, he spoke to one of the other students: “I have traveled far to listen to the master. But now that I hear him, I find his words quite ordinary.” The student replied: “Do not listen to his words. Listen to his message.” “And how do you do that?” “Hold on to a sentence he says. Then shake it well until all the words fall out. What remains will ignite your heart.”

Book Recommendation

EMDR – The Path Out of Trauma
Author: Laurel Parnell

Short Description:
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a method developed by Dr. Francine Shapiro, internationally recognized for processing trauma. In this book, Laurel Parnell conveys in a practical way how EMDR helps to sustainably resolve distressing memories, fears, and emotional injuries. She vividly describes how bilateral stimulation of the brain hemispheres contributes to healing and restores emotional balance. A well-founded work for therapists and anyone who wants to understand how trauma healing works on a neurobiological level.

The book can be ordered here.

General information

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