NLP Podcast 81: Flirting conversations with NLP

Do you know what it's like when you make new contacts and don't really know what to say? Especially in flirting conversations, many people find it difficult to let go of their nervousness, find the right words, and speak on the same wavelength as the other person. In such situations, NLP can help.

Pacing and Rapport

First, you should closely observe and calibrate the other person: How does your counterpart behave? Are there any peculiarities such as specific movements? Then try to mirror the body language, facial expressions, language, or even the mood of your counterpart. Maintain eye contact, listen carefully, and give your counterpart the feeling that you are attentive. All of this is part of classic NLP techniques used to build rapport.

   

Strategies in Flirting Conversations

Especially in flirting conversations, other NLP tools such as working with strategies can also be utilized. What is the goal of the conversation and how can I achieve this goal? “Those who feel good in conversations remember the conversation fondly,” says Stephan Landsiedel. One strategy could be to put the other person in a good state. It is advisable to find out what the other person enjoys doing. If you know what interests your counterpart has, then ask targeted questions about details and feelings to evoke a good state. Because of the good state, the person is likely to remember the conversation fondly. In the podcast, Stephan Landsiedel explains how you can find out and utilize the values of another person to put them in a good mood. He also shares more tips and NLP tools that can help you in conversations.

Flirting Weekend with Stephan Landsiedel

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Book Recommendations

In 100 Days to Become a Pro Flirter by Stephan Landsiedel This book contains a systematic training program that teaches the most important skills for successfully making contacts and flirting step by step in 100 days. It starts with exploring past flirting behavior and one's own personality. The difficulty gradually increases from week to week. Over 100 amusingly original comic drawings accompany the flirting student through this training program. >>> Buy this book in our shop. The Magic of Flirting - From Rejection to Kiss by Stephan Landsiedel With this book, you dive into the world of flirting. You will learn how to overcome shyness to confidently approach the woman or man of your dreams and captivate them. In the book, the author Stephan Landsiedel shares from his rich experience and connects existing knowledge with his own very effective flirting strategies. Not a book that should gather dust on a shelf, but one to read, engage with, and gift. The book itself can be ideally used for flirting. >>> Buy this book in our shop.