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РусскийOvercoming Fearful Opponents
With this technique, you can mentally shrink your “fear opponent” until they lose their intimidating power.
A “fear opponent” is someone in whose presence you feel inhibited, anxious, or uncertain. The following approach helps you quickly and effectively remove this discomfort.
- Think of a person in whose presence you have felt anxious, nervous, or insecure. Where and how do you see the image of this person in your “mind’s eye”? Is it far away or right in front of you? Does the person appear larger than life or normal-sized? Are you looking straight ahead, down, or up at them? Is the image on your left or right? Is it in color or black and white? What feeling arises in you when you think of this person, and where in your body do you feel it most strongly? Even if you can’t consciously visualize the image, your mind processes it on an unconscious level. Simply imagine you can see it clearly.
- Now imagine a small black-and-white television a few meters away from you, positioned on the floor to your lower left.
- See the image of this person on that small black-and-white TV screen. What changes do you notice in your feelings as you see this person as a tiny image far away, in black and white? (Usually, the discomfort lessens significantly—or disappears entirely.)
- Now, with your eyes closed, bring back the original image of the person as it first appeared—perhaps larger and higher up in your visual field. Then shrink the image down and place it in the little black-and-white TV, several meters away on the floor to your left. Open your eyes.
- Repeat step 4 five to eight times. Be sure to close your eyes at the start and open them for a few seconds at the end of each repetition. These repetitions train your brain to automatically repeat the process in the future. The once “overpowering” opponent will shrink in your perception to their normal size—and you’ll be able to face them confidently and with full access to your inner resources.
- Now imagine meeting this person again. How does the situation feel to you now?
If you’re still not satisfied with the result, repeat step 4 a few more times. Sometimes, more repetitions are needed to achieve the desired outcome.
